The 7 Habits of Happy marriage

A happy, healthy marriage can be a cause of strength and joy for you, but you will only get out of it what you put into it. If you begin developing healthy habits in your marriage today, the investment will definitely pay off later.

if you learn these admirable habits now, you are not only going to make your marriage simple to live with, you are going to make it a pleasure to live with! Start learning these seven habits of a healthy, happy marriage today.

1- Let it go: If you are a mom, you are always right. This attitude can be the downfall of a marriage. Whether you are right or not is never the issue. The real issue is if you are going to allow the issue to pass. You don't need to be right every time. In fact, you don't ever need the recognition of being right. Let it go. If an argument begins to surface, don't allow it to do damage. Be willing to be wrong (even if you are right). Just refuse to argue. There have been plenty of times when I knew that I knew that I knew I was right. And instead of arguing, I just said a simple, "okay, honey!" Being right is not nearly as important as making your marriage work.

2- Pour on the sugar : There is no getting around it, men are known for their egos. Instead of fighting it, work with it. Go heavy with the complements. I remember one time when I really wanted to watch a movie and Blair could not figure out a way to hook up the new system we had just bought. He was ready to give up when I said, "You're always so smart with this kind of stuff. I have no idea how you do it, but you always figure out a way to make it work. You amaze me." I don't know how he did it, but in less than 20 minutes, I was watching that movie! Everything tastes better with a pinch of sugar, so lay it on thick. Even if you have to search high and low, find something you can compliment him on and do it-a lot!

3-  Put his needs first: This is the best habit to have in a marriage. Try it for 30 days and see for yourself if it doesn't work wonders. Always put his needs first. For some reason, "serving" has gotten a bad rap in recent years. But there is real strength in learning to serve others in love. And it always comes back to bless you in ways you could have never expected. Try it for yourself. Make him a cup of coffee in the morning. Go ahead and iron those clothes for him to wear to work. I always fill up the tank in Blair's car when I'm using it to run errands on the weekends. These kinds of actions are not signs of weakness, but signs of strength. Only someone who has a rock-solid character would ever be able to serve truly another in love without expecting anything in return. He may not reciprocate immediately, but just give it time. He will.

4-  Don't nag and don't threat: The only thing nagging and threatening will do in a marriage is push those two people further and further apart. Don't let it happen. Sure, there are some things you wish he would do, but nagging will not ever work. If you really want something to change, try to sandwich the request between a compliment and an offer. For example, if you want him to pick up his dirty clothes from the bathroom floor, here's how you may present it.

* First, the compliment: You are such a huge help around the house.

* Second, the request: Do you think you could just toss those clothes in the hamper when you take them off?

* Third, the offer: Is there something I can do for you to make it easier? Maybe move the hamper closer?

Now, here's the trick. If he still doesn't do it, let it go. Go ahead and pick them up and toss them in for him (without telling him you did it). Remember, when you serve with love you will be blessed in return. Just be the better person and let it go. It's just a little bit of effort, really, and you will be building a better marriage because it. Accept your husband as he is without expecting or demanding a change.

5- Honor him-on and off the court: One mistake a lot of moms makes in their marriage is to not truly honor their husbands. A husband and wife should always honor each other in a marriage. You could say, "why should I honor him if he doesn't honor me?" Well, mama, it's got to start somewhere. Be the better person. Noah Webster's 1828 dictionary provides this definition of the word, 'honor.' A testimony of esteem; any expression of respect or of high estimation by words or actions. To honor someone means you hold them in high esteem, with great respect and high value. You cannot badmouth your husband to your friends or gripe about him in front of your kids and maintain honor in your marriage. Honour has to be a quality that you have "on and off the court" when it comes to your marriage. Build a habit of honouring your husband with your words and your actions when you are with him and even when you are not.

6- Be grateful: Gratitude goes a long, long way in a marriage. When you can train your thoughts to be grateful for your husband, you will be pulling more and more of that positive behaviour  out of him. It's a huge step in faith that will pay off later. Don't focus on his faults. Find those qualities that you love about your husband and let that be where your thoughts are centred. If you only focus on what is going wrong, that is the only thing you are going to be bringing out in your marriage. Instead, focus on what is going right!

7- Live by the motto,"I'm better than that!" Whenever you feel that anger boiling or that voice wanting to lash out, say this mantra to yourself: "I'm better than that." You are better than demanding that you are right. You are better than pulling the silent treatment. You are better than nagging and belittling. You were created for a marriage that is fulfilling and exciting. It has to begin somewhere, so let it begin with you. We live in a society that tears down marriage left and right, so you need to be willing to fight for it.